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title: Hi, thanks for reaching out to me 👋
date: 2020-12-02
description: How to get help from Kent
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I've been answering people's coding questions pretty much since I started
coding. Honestly, it's how I've gained as much experience as I have. I value
these questions because it means that I get a peek into the problems that people
are experiencing that may or may not be similar to problems I have experienced
in the past. Finding and providing the answers exposes me to more problems which
[gives me more experience](/blog/how-to-get-experience-as-a-software-engineer).

As an educator, developing a community of people who trust me is important to my
success. As the community grows, the number of support questions I get grows as
well. Luckily, the number of qualified people to answer those questions will
also grow and this is what has happened in
[the Epic Web Community on Discord](/discord) (you know who you are and I'm
super grateful to you).

Unfortunately, the number of direct questions to me has grown to an
unsustainable level. Direct questions come from these places:

- [Twitter](https://twitter.com/kentcdodds)
- [Open Source](https://github.com/kentcdodds)
- [Epic Web Community on Discord](/discord)
- [Email](/contact)
- [My AMA](https://github.com/kentcdodds/ama)
- Replies to [my newsletter](/subscribe)
- [YouTube](https://kcd.im/youtube)
- [LinkedIn](https://kcd.im/linkedin)

**In a typical 24 hour period, I receive requests for help from ~30-100
individuals.** Each request could be as simple as: "Hey, do you have a link to
that blog post about testing implementation details?" or as complex as: "Here's
a bunch of code, how would you structure the state here to avoid unnecessary
rerenders."

Even if it's simple requests for links (or questions for which a link to my blog
post will suffice as an answer, of which there are many), the time it takes to
respond adds up very quickly.

People have questions about the stuff I create or have experience with and want
help with it. Totally understandable. When I have a question, I'd much rather
talk to an expert on the subject than read generic documentation or outdated
tutorials (this is one of the reasons that I've done my
[tech chats](https://github.com/kentcdodds/ama/issues/125)).

Unfortunately, I don't have time to field all of the support requests that I
get. It's not that I don't want to help. I actually really LOVE helping people
use stuff that I care about or just helping in general. In fact, I think that
it's my responsiveness that is in part responsible for the number of messages I
receive. I've developed a reputation for myself.

As a personal character weakness, I'm often eager to answer these questions and
sometimes seek them out when I should be doing other things (like spending time
with my family)! I have a wife and four kids who need their daddy present and
engaged with them.

Answering questions all the time also leaves me with very limited time to
complete my actual commitments. There's just too much.

## So... what are you saying, Kent?

What I'm saying is that I'm making a change. I'm reducing my involvement in open
source. I've archived [my AMA](https://github.com/kentcdodds/ama). I'm going to
respond less on Twitter and Discord. I'll ignore most emails. Stuff like that.

Regarding open source, for a long time I've had a policy that if there's a
problem in need of a solution, I only solve it if one of the following is true:

1. I have the problem and need the solution myself
2. The problem is interesting and I just want to solve it for the fun of it

Unfortunately, "the fun of it" has taken the front seat at the expense of other
things I should be doing with my time, so that's what I mean when I say I'm
reducing my involvement in open source. I'm just going to spend less time
solving other people's problems and answering questions.

I'm not burned out or quitting the community, but these steps are intended to
avoid getting to that point.

## So... you're not helping anyone at all anymore?

No, let me clarify. I do plan to continue my [office hours](/office-hours). I
enjoy that time and it's consolidated which is nice. I just have to stop letting
messages interrupt my work and family time. I need to change the perception that
I'm the kind of person you can tweet at and get a response in a few
seconds/minutes. **I have to stop being a search engine for my content.**

You have so many great resources at your fingertips (many of them created by
me):

- [kentcdodds.com/blog](/blog)
- [KCD YouTube](https://kcd.im/youtube)
- [Epic Web Community on Discord](/discord)
- [Testing Library Discord](http://testing-library.com/discord)
- [Google....](https://google.com)

And of course, there's:

- [EpicReact.dev](https://epicreact.dev)
- [TestingJavaScript.com](https://testingjavascript.com)

## What if I need help with EpicReact.dev or TestingJavaScript.com?

If it's a technical support request, I never help with those anyway. I don't
even have access to your data to be of any use. Send an email to
`team@epicreact.dev` or `help@testingjavascript.com` and they can help you out.
Or if it's more general, `team@kentcdodds.com` goes to the same place as both of
those.

If it's a question about the material, then take it to the appropriate channel
on the [Epic Web Community on Discord](/discord). Our community is _thousands_
strong (and growing all the time) and so many super helpful and knowledgeable
folks in there. If you're all stumped, then bring it to
[office hours](/office-hours) and I'll see if I can help.

## How can I help?

Like I said in the opening, answering other people's questions is where a huge
amount of my own experience and credibility came from. If that's something you
want (I do recommend it despite this post sounding contrary), then here are some
things you can do (which will help you, the question asker, and me as well):

- Join the [Epic Web Community on Discord](/discord). Questions pop up in there
  constantly.
- ["Watch"](https://docs.github.com/en/free-pro-team@latest/github/getting-started-with-github/be-social#watching-a-repository)
  some of [my OSS repositories](https://github.com/kentcdodds) (especially
  [Testing Library ones](https://github.com/testing-library)).

Heck, you could even
[add this search](https://twitter.com/search?q=to%3Akentcdodds&src=typed_query&f=live)
to [your tweet deck](https://tweetdeck.twitter.com/) and chime in with "I know
you didn't ask me, but how about this..."

---

Sorry if this sounds heartless 💔. I really do care and I really do want to
help. I just can't all the time. Me doing this is a form of self care. I really
do hope you find the answer to your question and share that learning with the
world. Good luck.

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